Breakups are hard mostly because when they happen, not only do you lose a lover and an intimate connection with another person, but also in many cases you lose your best friend. I’ve lost someone so close to me and I’ve lost him to the point that he won’t respond when I try to salvage the remains of our friendship. I can say with some certainty that I didn’t do anything wrong. I tried to be supportive and available during his time of difficulty, and he just pushed me further and further away. I gave him space, didn’t text him for a few weeks, and now before I leave for my trip abroad, I send him a simple “hope you’re doing alright, maybe we can do something when I come home” etc and I get no response.
It hurts so deeply to know that someone who cared so much is now actively avoiding me. When he ended it, he said he didn’t want to lose me as a friend, because I was the only person who understood him. He ended it because he was feeling lost and confused and it was affecting the way he felt about our relationship on a day-to-day basis… I tried so hard to be his friend but he kept distancing himself and now I’ve lost him for good.